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“You’re SO annoyingly positive” was a comment I once received in an Instagram message. I read it and was taken aback. What the?!
Of course, I’m fully aware that every woman is different.
Every mom is different.
We all experience parenthood differently.
But I do believe – perhaps controversially – that we moms must work harder to enjoy motherhood on our terms – not based on others’ opinions or what we see on our social feeds or whatever other trend of fad seems to be making the rounds.
We deserve to love and embrace these stunningly beautiful-yet-short-years with our children. We deserve to see ourselves as goddesses, if you like.
Certainly not the “Oh, I’m just a Mom…” thing I’m sick and tired of hearing. I mean, really, I hear negativity surrounding motherhood from every angle, which breaks my heart because why waste it? Why?!
Mom Life
I read many stories about moms struggling. They feel downright exhausted, depleted, anxious, stressed, depressed, not good enough, scared, lost, confused. You name it— moms feels it.
Life is a struggle at what ought to be the happiest time of life.
I worry about several main areas, which in essence, is why I created my mamasfindyourvoice in the first place. I worry about:
- The mom’s health. How she’s feeling right now affects her sanity, happiness, and physical health, and who knows how this may affect her in the future.
- The mother’s memories of this precious time of life with her children in 50-60 years time from now.
- The children. What will they remember about their mom feeling this way, and how is it impacting them?
I believe with all my heart that moms have the ability to influence and save the world. Really! We are raising the next generation, and that’s a massive thing to do. Call me a dreamer; some of us have to be.
Change The Story
Moms! Listen up – we’re playing small if we’re not trying to help ourselves, instead, going deeper into the depths of not feeling as epic and empowered as we could be. I wrote an entire book on this exact topic.
We’re not sharing our voices as women, instead, being beaten by a society that creates this insane image of a “Supermom” that none of us can match up to.
A mom who can juggle everything, earn a good wage, and still keep the house immaculate, dinner on the table by 6pm sharp, and all the children’s faces are clean and dry with no pen marks or stains whatsoever.
And we’re letting ourselves feel beaten by this?! We don’t feel enough?!
We suffer from low self-confidence & self-esteem. We berate ourselves if we’ve decided to be a “stay-at-home” mum and vice versa -equally – if we’ve decided to go back to work and not spend as much time at home. Mom guilt is all over us regardless what we do!
We worry so much about ‘doing things wrong’ when any and every answer on Google answers us something different anyway.
We don’t care enough for ourselves and our health, blaming lack of time, money, energy, mood, etc.
This breaks my heart. For you’re worth SO much! Moms are the change-makers. And we do have a choice.
Feel empowered
We can continue to struggle or we can take action, make changes, and claim back what is rightfully ours. That being our true selves.
After all, when a mom ‘finds’ herself and her ‘voice’ amongst the maze of shite out there on the internet and the world, she’ll feel epic.
Empowered. Self-assured. Grounded. Present. Joyful. And this will be sensed by her children too, in such a good way.
“Motherhood with all the sparkles” will soon become my motto. It’s not reliant on ‘having a perfect, easy child’ or ‘getting outside help.’
What it’s reliant on is the mother choosing her mindset. Choosing her perspective. Choosing to own her story. Not being a victim. Not shrinking back but stepping boldly forward.
Choosing to listen to her inner voice. Choosing to be a decision-maker. A woman with power.
Look. Motherhood is happening now. You’re a mother now, so please don’t suffer through it.
Enjoy it, embrace it, and hold it tight in a massive ball of love for yourself and your beautiful family.
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