Is it time we talked about this my darling, do you think? I mean, yes, it really is.

Because it’s been a long time. And it’s a bad thing I feel.

Isn’t it?

Surely, now it’s time to give up the phones?

For the sake of our sanity.

Is it time we talked about this?

The longer it goes on my darling, my love.

The big fat elephant in the room. The larger the damage.

No?

We are both as bad as each other lets be clear.

It’s certainly not that the phone is more important. Of course it’s not!

But it gets more attention than me and you put together.

Is it complacency? Or just a bad habit?

I don’t know, but I can foresee the damage. And it’s big.

I feel it within me, and I’m so conscious of not doing it anymore, even though I have done it before.

At mealtimes in particular, or when you’re directly talking to me, I know I’ve been distracted.

And I’ve done the worst thing and made out I was listening. When in fact, I wasn’t.

So let’s talk about the nation’s biggest mental health conversation, shall we?

I see you doing it though, more frequently nowadays and that really worries me. What are you looking at, I wonder?

Sometimes, no, many times last year you were so fixated on that god damn phone, and now this year too. It breaks my heart. But I’m equally as bad. For the first time, I admit it.

Don’t get me wrong here. I’m a tough woman and can withstand a lot.

But when I see you doing it in front of them – our miracle babies – tugging at your trouser legs, begging for your attention. You’re so captivated by LinkedIn or checking stupid work emails.

This hurts me so much. And them. It hurts us all. You as well, but you can’t see it.

It should be our time together. Talk day I call it.

Family members uniting, saying NO more to the sh*tful scrolling. Let’s live life!

Dinner, bath, stories, brush teeth and bed. That is how our evenings look for the foreseeable future and it’s so beautiful! Yet we’re at risk of missing it.

It’s a simple formula, and they don’t need much. Our boys. Yet they deserve our full attention. Yes 100%, they deserve this.

But more often than not, the phones are with us.

Distracting us. In our hands. Our pockets. Our heads. Scratching away at our psyche, digging a hole deeper than we know.

What is it doing to us I wonder? All that social media and constant dopamine hits through signing up for yet another freebie lead magnet.

It’s just such a waste of time my darling lets be serious. Time is ticking for everyone.

There’s so many conversations, looks, loving, passionate things we could be doing together if it weren’t for the phones.

I feel like we don’t have quality time together anymore. The phone is in the way. It’s not the kids.

I’m a real person woman here my darling. I love you. I love our gorgeous children so much!

Yet when was the last time we actually had a conversation without our f*cking phones?

I can’t quite remember.

So my darling, I’m asking you, please, shall we have a conversation?

Is it time we talked about this?

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