So clinical, sterile, future paced
Focused on achievements
We panic if our child ‘seems’ to be lagging
Question “Why they don’t sleep through the night yet?”
Terrorise ourselves asking, searching, seeking answers
Answers which differ every way we look
Answers which only the Mother knows
And what about the Mother?
The woman who has power to change history
To undo conditioning, trauma, past hurts
She has the power to see her child
As the beautiful, unique being they really are
Not from what society expects them to be
For this – this is the power of a mother
Your Heart Knows The Way
There’s freedom that comes when you finally stop listening to the noise.
I call ‘the noise’ all those outside opinions we allow ourselves to be steered by.
I recall sitting in my living room last year, our health visitor weighing baby number 2.
She was talking to me mid measuring, asking if I was happy.
“I am, yes” I said.
Her face searched mine for a trace of doubt in my words. “Are you sure?” she said. “Call me if you need to, anytime, OK?”
I was grateful to her, of course, but I wondered why on earth she needed to probe? Did I know look happy?
I began to doubt myself.
Am I not happy? Was I not appearing grateful?
The mind often plays these tricks on us.
I dunno whether I have some strange head on my shoulders (probably lol), but I’ve never been one to listen much to advice.
I choose freedom every day.
Google exhausts the living daylights out of me. When it comes to parenting advice, I read it (like we all do), but I generally don’t apply it.
I started listening to my heart from day one. For I know that no one knows my children as I do.
It’s why I choose to co-sleep with my babies. It’s why I choose to breastfeed past the 1-year mark (for as long as my baby wants it).
It’s why I let my children run in the wet grass with bare feet because I don’t buy into that, “They’ll catch a cold!”
When you choose to listen to your heart instead of the ‘Google head’ (or whatever other opinion comes your way), you empower yourself.
And an empowered mother is a mother who initiates change. Who takes control and does things her way – that she knows are right for her family.
She’s not a pushover. She doesn’t wait for things to happen. She makes them happen.
When you feel empowered, you feel on top form. And you’re a better mother – period.
Your kids will notice the shift in you too, and their behaviour will reflect your newfound heart led self.
Confusion is a Choice
You telling yourself you’re confused is never going to get you anywhere. You have a choice here. Whether to be confused, or not.
To de-confuse yourself, simply ask yourself this question:
“What would the best version of me do in this situation?”
And then, answer truthfully.
Pull yourself away from your automatic thinking methods which have held you back for so long.
Grab a notepad and write down your answers.
(Writing is one of the proven ways to escape your mind and get intentional).
Like I said, being confused doesn’t serve you. Step out of it today and get into power mode!
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