What a week.
From a new Prime Minister to the Queen’s sad and heartbreaking passing. In the space of 2 days.
You couldn’t imagine it could you? Until it happened.
But then again, motherhood can be like that.
You think you’ve got it under some semblance of control.
The dinner is (kind of) ready on time. The toys are packed away. The laundry is drying on the airer; you’ve cleaned the floor and washed the dishes.
It’s been a somewhat productive day. You’ve even managed to answer a few emails and create some social media posts (wins).
And then something extraordinary comes and knocks you for six.
A scream or a fall down some steps. An argument or a headache. Or you get that bill through for that unimaginable electricity charge we’re all dreading this winter.
It’s a strange, unsettling time for sure.
I used to be very focused on giving answers in my blog posts. Convinced that “If you only do as I say, you’ll feel better.”
What a mug, I hear you say!
Haha – it took me a long time to realise that my advice wasn’t helpful in the slightest…
I started this blog as an accompaniment to the anxiety coaching business I started back in early 2019.
An ambitious and immature action to take when I’d just had a baby, I now confess. Business wasn’t good for me.
But I was not to be swayed.
And so, the workings of running a business took their toll when baby number 2 arrived a year and a bit after. I was convinced I could hold it all together.
And to spare you the details – I got into burnout stage, and had to end the whole thing.
I cancelled my amazing clients, closed my membership group, and slowly made my way out of burnout and into recovery.
This is why I’m writing this – I guess it’s some kind of cathartic release for me – but with the hope that it may help you too.
Because so often, we start something to finish it, but that finish never comes.
The thing is, I shifted Mamas Find Your Voice into this blog you’re reading now over a year ago. I no longer sell my course, nor do I market myself as anything.
But I now wonder where to take it?
I’ve made no choice yet. I’ll see how I feel in time and whether Mamas Find Your Voice is still suitable for me.
I’m now working as a writer for creative businesses, which I love doing more than anything else.
Time will tell, I guess.
Perhaps the death of our Queen has made me question things? As maybe it has for you too?
Consistency for one.
She was a constant – in our lives everywhere you looked (in Britain, that is). On coins, notes, stamps, everything.
Her figurehead was always there and in some ways, Britain was her.
And suddenly, losing all that – the shock of a couple of days ago – it did hit me. I got emotional, as I’m sure many experienced.
Connection as well. She connected us all to a time where values were the foundation of a person. And she stayed committed to her values until her dying day.
So I come to my point. Which is that I vehemently believe in the prowess of mothers.
I feel it in my bones that we can contribute more by focusing on the important stuff – and avoiding the burnout stuff.
This means: Giving ourselves as women more of what we need, and being less of a walkover.
Queen Elizabeth the Second was ahead of her time, and she showed it. She was the first Queen to ever breastfeed her own children!
In those times too – what an extraordinary strength she had.
That takes some balls.
And I feel that, as mothers, we need to take inspiration from her book and stop playing small, stop playing victim, and up the game.
Start seeing our precious role in society and playing it.
Beginning with owning our position as mothers and seeing ourselves as the Queens of our homes. It all starts with our nearest and dearest.
Step up and raise ourselves.
I’m sure many eyes that read this will think I’m talking bollocks but I don’t care. I see so many mums in the shops and streets who are playing small.
And what are their kids learning while they see this?
So for now, Mamas Find Your Voice will stay, as this blog, so check out other posts which take your fancy.
I’ll keep you all posted with what I decide to do when the time comes.
Thanks for reading! With love,