Since the latest restrictions lifting, life’s gotten extra busy, ‘cos I’ve booked us onto every single baby class I can find.
You’re probably thinking “She’s mad!”
But seriously, that last lockdown was hard work. And I need to escape the house.
Thank god for April 14th!
Not that I’m desperate to go shopping. I really couldn’t care less about adding more clutter. Noooo. What I need is face to face contact. To see family and friends again.
And I’m also aware of how little socialising baby number one’s had with other children recently.
Having read several child development books I know how sensitive the early years are. So my mind’s been telling me to make sure he socialises with other toddlers his age as a priority.
And this is exactly what we’ve been doing. Frequent toddler visits. To the extent that he’s now hyper stimulated… (lol)
I find that hilarious about being a mum.
We’re so scared we’ll mess up our kids that we’ll do everything to ‘do the right thing’ and then, despite doing what we *think’s* the right thing, they go nuts anyway. Can we ever win? I sometimes wonder…
But one thing I’ve noticed that amazes me every time, is how quickly he adapts, so I really don’t think the past year’s affected him that much. He’s one step ahead of me every time it seems.
Apparently, children have around twice as many neurons (brain cells) as adults do. I love that stat. And I love that, if you’re looking at it factually, my children are twice as intelligent as me.
I find great comfort that he does bond with other kids after a year of lockdown life. And I think I’ve had the same thoughts as every other mum who’s got young children.
Has the past year affected them in a bad way?
The thing is, we’re probably all asking this, but we shouldn’t worry about this. Honestly, we mustn’t worry.
All we can do is start where we’re at, and build up from there.
There’s nothing we could’ve done differently (thanks Covid)
And the biggest piece of advice I’m giving everyone is take the pressure off.
We all pile on the pressure, on ourselves, from ourselves, and from us perceiving pressure from others. Mothering young children is full on to put it lightly.
The housework for example, it can wait. The pile of clothes can wait. The demands for food NOW can wait (a little)
Seriously give yourself a break mama as frequently as you can.
Whether you’re stressed about their development, the milestones, meeting appointments, weaning, going back to work, potty training, sleep/lack of sleep, relationships, whatever it is. My best advice is try and take a zero pressure approach to everything.
If you find yourself feeling stressed or under so much pressure you’re about to explode, grab a cuppa, sit down and breathe. Close your eyes for a few seconds and mentally tell yourself it’s gonna be OK. Breathe in for 4 and out for 8 and repeat at least 5 times.
This short practise is enough to switch you out of panic mode into control mode, so you can think about the next best steps.
Also just to say, if you’re someone who has little to no physical help or support looking after your little ones, then get in touch. I’m in the same boat, and the best thing I’ve found is to talk about it and share ideas/solutions.
You can also jump into my Facebook group and share ideas there if you’d like to as well.
Wishing you all the best.
(Photo by Sophie Slosarczyk)