Want to boost your confidence in yourself and stroll into that room like you own the place? You’ll find the answers you need right here in this post. You’ve got this!
Confidence. It’s a killer word, right?
We all need it. After all, a lack of confidence leads to bad thoughts and low self-esteem.
On the contrary, high self-confidence equals better performance and increased self-esteem, leading to long-term life satisfaction.
When we’re confident, we ask for what we want without shying away.
We step into a challenging situation with our heads held high, and no matter the outcome, we know we’ll be OK.
Confidence gives us a firm base in ourselves.
If we come across a particular situation that makes us uncomfortable, we stride on through anyway, regardless of what anyone says or does to us.
What is Confidence?
Does a person push in front of you in the queue?
It’s not a problem when you’re confident in yourself.
Most of us agree on the meaning of confidence, despite it signifying different things to different people.
I would sum up confidence as follows:
-Maintaining eye contact even in a challenging situation
-Walking into a room knowing you can handle anything
-Standing up for yourself and your values
-Full trust in yourself and your abilities
Confidence isn’t that complex. Nor is it out of your reach. It’s simply the last point on that list. Being aware of and embracing your own abilities.
It’s a powerful tool that can be used to remove negative self-talk and escape difficult situations.
It’s also a state of mind where new challenges are embraced, not avoided. Confidence is a firm belief in yourself that “I’ve Got This No Matter What.”
On the contrary, low self-confidence is a feeling of being unable to do things your way.
Not having your voice or your own stand for yourself.
People who struggle with self-confidence often experience low mood, doubt their abilities, and don’t chase after new things.
So, if you want to boost your own self-confidence, read on.
(There’s no secret to being confident, by the way. It’s available to everyone!)
Confidence = Competence
I got this confidence = competence thing from the author Mel Robbins. It means you can’t be confident at something unless you’re competent in it.
Now you’re probably asking, “How can I be competent in life?”
Read on to find out.
1. Trust Yourself
To start trusting yourself more, challenge yourself to make some decisions.
This is the first thing. The tiniest decision you make can immediately boost your confidence. Or even better, choose something! Or even better, commit to something!
Do any of these things just because you can; the more you do this, the more confident you’ll become.
Regarding the competence thing, it makes sense that the more you practice, the more confident you’ll become, so that’s what that’s about.
As a side note, the first time doing anything is always scary, but that same feeling of nerves or tingles in your tummy can also signal excitement!
2. Growth mindset
If you’re keen on the self-development scene, you’ll know about the comfort zone and growth mindset, but for the rest of us, simply escaping the routine norm will improve your confidence.
Challenge yourself to walk a slightly different route today or visit a different shop for a new experience. Smile at a stranger; if you don’t get a smile back, their loss! Shrug it off and know that you’ve been a good person there.
I know it can seem impossible right now to get outside the comfort zone with the pandemic (ugh), but you need to be creative with it.
Can you call someone you’ve not spoken to for a while?
Can you cook a new meal you’ve never made before?
Can you do something romantic for your partner, like pop a little love note in their sandwiches?
The answer is YES! As a result, your confidence levels will blossom, and your sense of self will go through the roof. Self-confident people practice confidence-boosting things daily, just like those listed above.
3. Visualize being confident
Visualize yourself stepping out of not being confident and into being confident.
You could imagine confidence as a new outfit to try on as an example. Simply try imagining it. Take off that low-confidence outfit and try on the confidence outfit!
How would it feel?
How would you look?
What would you do if you were more confident?
What would you act like?
So often we run automatically, based on decades of repeated behavior, so by visualizing something different, we initiate a spark that could be the change we’re looking for.
Have fun with this visualization!
- Confidence = competence.
- Push outside the zone of normalness.
- Visualise being confident.
You can also spend some time journaling on the topic of confidence.
Journaling is something I advocate for any struggle in life. Whether it’s positive thinking, mental health or simply life getting on top of us, journaling offers a solution.
Here’s to more confidence!
Now challenge yourself (make that phone call!) and pop a comment below, sharing how it was for you!