Mindset is everything. It really is.
I taught on this topic extensively in my old well-being club, and never got tired of it.
A shift in mindset can beat away a low mood almost as good as a brisk walk or run.
And for mothers who are running (literally) after the kids all day, every day, your mindset contributes to how much you enjoy the chaos, rather than being beaten down by it.
I’ve read so many (literally, dozens!) of mindset books over the past ten years since I got into personal development – do check out my (personal development) blog at dreaminspirethrive.com
And each one has given me a different insight. A new view on something. Or a new way of seeing a situation.
A great book can shift your perspective and transform your life.
Big words I know!
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The biggest obstacle for many of us to overcome is a fixed mindset. This is a way of being if you ask me. Typical behaviour includes:
- Being a victim. “I can’t do X because I’m too old/too fat/too tired.”
- Not being open to change. “I know best, so there’s no point in trying.”
- Blaming others for your downfalls. “They did X to me, and this means X.”
- Not taking responsibility for your own life. “I can’t chase my dreams because of X.”
- Repeating old behaviours without awareness that you can change!
In contrast, a growth mindset always leads to possibility. To open doors. To new beginnings.
(Whereas a fixed mindset will always close doors.)
One of the best books I’ve read on developing a growth mindset is called 7 Habits of highly effective people by Stephen R Covey.
It’s over 30 years old but I love this – that things don’t change, what changes is us! From the inside.
Stephen gives 7 (simple in theory) tools for developing a growth mindset.
The human mind is proven to be adaptable after extensive research in the personal development field – meaning it can develop new thought processes (neurons) simply by feeding it with the right information.
I read this book over 15 years ago when I first went to uni, and it was a constant companion on those hangover mornings (remember?) when you don’t want to go for a run, but you know you’ll feel better if you do!
Haha! Oh the memories.
Another favourite of mine is The growth mindset workbook by Elaine Elliot Moskwa
I love this book is because you practice a growth mindset by doing the exercises. It’s easy to read about a growth mindset for sure, but then we’ll slip back into old ways and wonder why we struggle?
This is where this book is a gem.
It uses CBT to consciously reprogramme limiting beliefs and switch into a growth mindset – allowing you to take a different perspective on life’s challenges.
For a long time I admit, I was uber keen to develop a growth mindset but I was like “How?” “How do I do it?” And this book helped answer that question.
Oh the world of self help! It’s a vast never ending pit which, if I could sum it up, covers these two facts:
- Everything is able to be seen from a different perspective (growth mindset)
- Only you can change your life. No one else.
Haha – no, I’m kidding!
But truly, there are some superb books out there, which do deep work on the human psyche.
I say that from being a mother and a woman because we all face tough times, and this is where self-help brings comfort and strength.
Atomic habits is one of my all-time best books.
It’s by James Clear and celebrates the impact of tiny micro changes throughout the day.
How do these compound over time and lead to great things? He explains it all.
Drinking one extra glass of water in the morning. Doing 10 squats. Going for a 5-minute walk every lunch time.
I should read it again as my habits are slipping here in Poland! (I’m eating way too much sugar and not enough fibre, but the awareness of that means I can change it.)
Another self-help book I recommend, especially if you don’t love reading long swathes of text, is Heart Thoughts by Louise Hay.
I keep this book on display in my kitchen and open a page at random whenever I need inspiration.
It’s a beautifully designed book, brightly coloured and engaging – like a mind cleanse when you open it.
You’ll shift into positive thinking immediately when you read a page, it’s that eye opening.
One of the most important things I’ve learned since forever, is that I’m in control of how I feel. I’m certainly not in control of what others think or do – but I can always control my feelings within.
I say this, because right now, in Poland (where my husband comes from) I’m an inch away from my comfort zone in every moment.
I’ve gotten pretty good with the Polish language and traditions over the years, mind you, but I still get tingles of nerves when I order bread or go to the play park and speak Polish.
But a lot of personal development years later, I’m at peace at the level I’m at. I know I can be better (growth mindset) BUT! I’m comfortable being here as I am now.
I hope that waffle made sense!
I guess I’m writing this post for the ‘mumpreneurs’ out there.
Those of us trying to get a business working while looking after our beautiful kids full time. We’re not such a rare breed, y’know!
Too common is the hustle, right?
The need to be doing more and more. The feelings of unworthiness if we don’t bring money in even though we have small kids to look after.
This is why I created Mamas Find Your Voice – to allow women to escape the chaos!
I wrote a book on Journaling for wellbeing which I’m including in this list because I feel, it’s worthy of a place.
Journaling is the best way to create good habits and give yourself some ‘me time’.
It’s changed personal lives far better than a therapy session. I feel every human being ought to be doing – to tune out of the noise, and into a place of calm knowing-ness.
I wouldn’t exactly call my book one of the best mindset books by any stretch, but it certainly has its place as a brilliant book to help with personal growth.
Best growth mindset books
I feel that motherhood and mindset are intrinsically linked.
If you read earlier in this post the bit about a growth mindset, you’ll see why it makes you so much of a better mother!
Simply because you see possibility everywhere.
You’re committed to overcoming past drawbacks and filling your future with an open, free mind.
This is how I see a growth mindset.
I don’t see it as a bunch of words on a page or something that ‘I’ll get round to later’. I see a growth mindset as something everyone can adopt RIGHT NOW.
Having a growth mindset has helped me in so many situations, I can’t tell you!
As a mother, daily life can wear you down, but switch that attitude around with a growth mindset and you’ll feel like a champion at home!
The most successful people have a growth mindset for sure (some call it a success mindset or money mindset); never seeing failure as failure, but as feedback.
Forever open to new opportunities. Always learning. You get the idea.
This is a mindset which will always allow you to win no matter the outcome. And the first step is to try it!
So go on! Try it.
What challenge are you facing, and how can you see it from a growth mindset perspective?
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